Do I tell my 11 year old daughter that my husband in not her biological father?

My daughter was 2 years old when I got married to my husband. Her biological father and I broke up when she was a couple of months old because he was a drug addict. He died a few years after that due to an overdose. Since that time my husband has adopted her and he is all that she knows.





I am thinking about telling her that my husband is not her biological father because I am worried that she will find out somewhere along the lines and be mad at me for not telling her. Should I tell her?Do I tell my 11 year old daughter that my husband in not her biological father?
Honestly, I have been through this before. My mom was 18 when she got prenant with me and my biological father skipped out as soon as he found out. Whenever I was 18 months old she met another guy when she ended up marrying when I was 3. Since I had my moms maiden name I always thought that it was because I was born before they were married. This man was a father to me and I even called him dad because I thought he was. I remember the day that everything changed. I was 12 yearsold and my mom and ';dad'; were argueing and they called me into the room And asked if I know why I have a different last name than them and then mom told me. At the time it broke my heart knowing that he wasn't my real dad but I think that since they told me at that age I was still young but as I grew up more I knew that as far as I'm concerned he was my dad. I never thought any different of him and he didn't of me. In 2005 my ';dad'; passed away and it was so hard for me. But it just made me happy that I was able to know him and spend time with him as my dad before that. I still think about him and consider him my dad. Even go to the cemetery to see him. As far as the guy who ran off, I really don't consider him anyhing but a pos but in some crazy way I kind of would like to meet him or talk to him one day to see if he remembers or how h will react. I don't think I could ever have a relationship with him though. But to answer your question I think it depends more on their maturity level than their age. But I'm definitely glad my mom told me sooner than later because I think I may have had some resentment towards my mm if she would of waited until maybe now when I'm 20. It definitely made me have greater respect towards him for making another mans baby his daughter. There aren't alot of men like that out there, so consider ourselves lucky!!Do I tell my 11 year old daughter that my husband in not her biological father?
no, your husband is her real dad, the other guy was a sperm donor. right after my parents died, my older sister told me my dad might not have been my real dad. I had a hard time with that at first and then realized that no one could change who my dad was to me and I didnt need ideas about having any other dad.
I would wait till shes a wee bit older. Thats a lot for any child to take and 11 is still young. Id do more like 15 or 16. I wouldnt worry about being saying stuff to her, no one wants to be the one to tell a child one or both of their parents arent really their parents.
Should have done it earlier in my opinion, but now is a good time. She should know. Just explain to her after you have told her that you weren't sure of the right age to tell her, but felt you shouldn't put it off any longer.
YES!!


Tell her she will always love you and her dad but she deserves to know, the longer you wait the harder it will be for her.
I would just be honest with her her was a bad man , and the guy u married my not be her bio father but he was the one that has been there for her