Do others think this is innappropriate? My cousin and her husband use the bathroom at home with the door open

They have four children ranging in age from 3-14. l know for the little ones (3%26amp;6) this isn't so bad, but for older children isn't this pretty weird? The oldest is a girl and her father will use the shower or toilet with the door open, and talking to her! l've suggested to my cousin that perhaps with the kids growing up this would be something to think about stopping, but she says it's ok, they're just a close family! Also, it freaks me out that if the 14 yr old is in the bath, either of her parents will go in and speak to her. What do others think?Do others think this is innappropriate? My cousin and her husband use the bathroom at home with the door open
Wow, l can certainly understand your concerns! lt really doesn't sound as if anything 'wrong' is going on, but for a 14 year old girl (l think it's a girl?) to witness her father using the bathroom, and for him to see her and speak to her while she is in the shower is certainly innappropriate. l think the trouble is that a lot of parents don't really respect their children's privacy. l do know that the law (varies from state to state) would most likely frown on what is happening, and states that children of this age must have privacy during personal hygeine routines. While l believe that your body isn't anything to be ashamed of, sadly in this day and age we must be concerned with teaching children protective behaviour, and the idea of their bodies being 'off limits' to anyone else may be difficult for them to understand in a situation like this. However, this is my opinion, if you are really worried perhaps talk to your cousin again?Do others think this is innappropriate? My cousin and her husband use the bathroom at home with the door open
I think it's none of your business. You were raised differently from them. I'm 23 and I always leave the door open. The kids constantly need to use the potty or talk to me while I'm in the shower. There's nothing to be ashamed of, all of us poop and fart, there's nothing surprising about that.
If they were raised in this way...being open about everything, I don't see anything wrong with it. It's what's ';normal'; to them. Just because it's different from how you were raised, doesn't mean it's wrong or weird. Some families don't see nudity or using the bathroom as a private matter...it's just natural. There are families out there who walk around the house nude and they are function perfectly fine. I personally like my privacy.
I remember the panicked advice I used to get when my daughter first arrived: ';never let her out of your sight'; ';never leave her in the bathroom by herself'; ';never, ever leave your child unattended ANYWHERE - even in your own home!';.


Once you start that kind of parenting, it's hard to know when to stop. Hence, doors are left open (is the baby crying?) and children are not left alone in bathtubs (it only takes an inch of water to drown!). I think that kids grow out of it and any day now the 14 year old will demand her privacy.
Maybe this family is simply not self-conscious about their bodies. It doesn't sound like there's any incest or anything like that going on (which would definitely be innapproprate!)... just people who don't close the bathroom door.





Nudity is not necessarily innappropriate. (Would you say that nudists are innappropriate?) It may be something that is not for everyone, but I don't think nudity in and of itself is innappropriate.
i don't see the problem. its just bathroom usage not a sexual playground. speaking to someone threw a closed/concealed shower curtain hardly suggests inappropriate behavior. i really don't see how even a concern about nudity would be an issue.my bathroom door is always open and i couldn't tell you a time anyone in my house saw me naked b/c i used the bathroom, or i have seen them for that matter.
I think the 14-yr old should be able to lock the door if she so chooses... however, you could possibly be leaving some details out. Is it the only bathroom in the house? In that case, locking the door (at least during a shower/bath) simply isn't an option with a 3-yr old in the house... the bladder control simply isn't developed enough to wait it out.





If it doesn't bother her... why should it bother you?
Yuck!!!! I wouldn't let my parents anywhere near the bathroom. The door was always locked!!!!! Weird family. A bit conerning actually.
It's not innappropriate for them.





You want us to say this family should change for the sake of you not getting ';freaked out';?





Quit being so self-centered, not everyone has hang-ups about nudity.
Have any of the children told you that the parent's actions bother them? I can't believe you already went there with the mom and now are looking for more ammunition on Answers to bug these people.





If the 14 yo wants her privacy then she can close the door, lock it, or ask her parents to leave.





I'm sure the father is not saying to his kids, ';hey, kids come watch me use the toilet!';





If it freaks you out so much, don't do it in your home. I'm 23 years old, and have no problem with my parents talking to me while I'm in the shower or using the bathroom when I am at their house (They live 25 minutes away from me.). They are my parents, not some freaks looking for a show.
i think that it is kind of weird but if the kids are used to it then it might be fine. but if you suggest foul play then maybe you should report it. i know it is your fam but think of how seeing their mom and dad's goodies on a regular basis might effect their mind.
Were you peeking in on the 14 yr. old?
its ok for the younger ones but at 14 a father should not see his daughter naked





in my oppinon any waymy girls dont see me naked unless they run in when im in the toilet but now they are used to knockingon the door when im in there because i dont like o lockitwhen its justme and the kids incase there is an accident





if they only have 1 toliet though trhey do need it availible for the younger kids 24/7
Are you the only one that is freaked out about this. Is anyone else in the family said they think it is weird..?





If not, then it really is there house and they do as they want.
No it's not inappropriate because it's their family.





You cast your opinion and judgement on whats not happening in your life.





You make wrong what is normal for them, let it be, you are lucky to see how ok they are with the human body and its functions
I think the dad is a perv,walking in on a 14yr old is just plain wrong.