Why does my husband masterbate after he thinks I am asleep?

Sometimes late at night my hubby pleasures himself when he thinks I'm asleep. I don't understand this becasue we have sex fairly frequent. I wonder if I'm not pleasuring him enough of pleasing him. Or maybe he's just oversexed and may start cheating on me? I'm really freaked about this, but every time I want to bring it up, I clam up and get embarrassed... Should I let it go, should I? What would you do?Why does my husband masterbate after he thinks I am asleep?
Don't fool yourself honey, he's doing it for one reason and one reason alone, you are not satisfying him enough and his sex level is too high, try slipping ';salt peter tablets'; into his food and drink and maybe he'll calm down. They gave it to high school kids in lunches back in fifties and to prisoners and army people back way when, but it may help. Good luck, I know, because my boyfriend was the same way for ten years and I lost my whole sexual drive until I had an affair with a doctor's son who examined women's pap smear cultures in a lab for $50 bucks an hour who lived up the street from where we lived! I had to have an affair to gain back my sexual drive and believe me it helped when I finally got away from the controlling guy of ten years, even if the doctor's sun ran with his tail between his legs, he opened me up like a rose after a ten year nuclear winter! Hope You have same luck, I ended up married with a fun loving director guy, but it's still not easy.Why does my husband masterbate after he thinks I am asleep?
Well, if it happens often, than if i were you id dress in a sexy night langirae and when you see him please himself, go to him and start pleasing him yourself. You know start the action!! I'm pretty sure he wont turn you down, and if you get the feeling that his not licking your work on him than you should be worried and should confront him and u shall be able to talk to him about everything.





Plan 2: You should please yourself too one day when u know his fairly falling a sleep and see what his reactions would be. Will he get up make love to u or if he will just stay quite and pretend that his a sleep..hihi..hell be confused and i know u dont feel comfortable bringing his issue up than he may just bring it up by the second time you do that!!!! Trust me this will work! usually if a man cheats he wont really please him self while laying next to you!





Its weird how chemistry and psychology works in the human nature. Good luck to you!
Everyobdy has different sexual needs, and I don't think it's a case of you not pleasing or pleasuring him enough. He just seems to need more sex and I'd say it's a good sign that he is apparantly taking care of his needs himself and not with another partner. SInce you are too shy to talk to him abou this, either let him do his thing in peace or quit pretending to be asleep and join in the action with him!
You should be discussing this with your husband, if it truly bothers you. If you can deal with it just let it go. No need to argue and fight over something that could be nothing. If he were looking at magazines or photos or anything else than you have every right to be freaked, but I wouldn't worry if he didn't.
the next time he thinks you're asleep and he's doing it just ';pretend'; to wake up and catch him and take it from there. You have sex with the man. He is just touching himself. He feels comfortable enough to do it in front of you so why cant you talk about it? Maybe he wants a wierd fantasy? who knows? He probably wants more sex though. Talk the guy. Good luck.
He's your husband you shouldn't be embarrassed ot talk to him.


He's probably got a higher sex drive then you and doesn't want to force you into more sex. If he's jerkin goff it's a good sign he's not cheating on you.





Just talk to him, you're married stop being embarassed.
I think that you should talk to him and ask him. However if he is only touching himself then you have nothing to worry about. It is when he stops doing that next to you when you should worry...
He is your husband and if it bothers you, then you need to speak with him about it.
Don't worry about it. Look it at this way, it could be worse. He could have been having sex with another woman.
High sex drive syndromn.
TRY to talk to him about it. If he won't talk RUN to a therapist for you.
maybe he wants more.
Oh man....Well , I don't know why he does this, a situation like this never happened with me.Firs off what he's doing is a disrespect for you making you believe that you're not good enough or something like that. And the question you're asking yourself if you're not pleasing him enough with all due respect it's nonsense and you shouldn't do anything you feel uncomfortable with just to make him feel good.Sex is something in which both have to feel amazing, not just one of them!!That is totally crazy .Never, ever do something you feel uncomfortable with.This happens so often ...and when you love somebody you don't make them do anything they're uncomfortable with generally speaking not to mention the sex part!Yes!Of course you should have a talk with him , this is something that confuses you and bothers you .There is nothing you should feel ashamed about it's your right to ask !Flat out ask him about it.Freaked out about what?Which part?that he is doing this or that he might cheat on you?Maybe both...but even if it will sound strange coming from a guy let me tell you this:In no way should this thought make you do things you don't want to.!!And I seriously doubt he would do that , instead of explaining this to you!Cause if he does it's obviously his loss and he's plain stupid(excuse my phrasing) not yours don't let this become a chain!!Tell him it bothers you .What he's failing to see is that you think feel and see things differently and while this might seem normal to him it's confusing and weird for you.You see...I said it before in other posts I'll say it again...we men are most of the times quite the limited beings and don't realise certain things.So this is where(cause he can't realise it on his own) you have to tell him yessss!!!it bothers me!Just do it, if he will pay a little attention to what it is you're saying he'll get the picture.