Because he used it to control you, you are letting him do this to you.
No one knows for sure who will get the kids in a divorce, but if you leave with them, you got them for now and often they still give the women main custody or at worst joint custody.
But get some money put back, get an attorney and have it all arrnaged before you do anything.Why does my husband threaten me with taking the children?
Several reasons, but mostly, BECAUSE HE IS AN ASSHOLE!
He is using your most important thing against you to make you fear him. He wants you with him only because he is powerful over you.
This is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. Seek some conseling and start to take control over you and your children's life. If you are a decent mother he will not succeed and he is making wild threats.
I've been in your shoes, and I know how hard the situation is; but there are resources out there to help you. Make those phone calls. Good luck.
Because he still trying to control you through your children.
No offense, amy, and don't take this personally, but how are we in the Y!A community supposed to know that you are not the problem in your family? That you are not the abusive and manipulative party?
We don't know, and to answer your questions would be to accept the aspersions and guilt cast by you upon someone else we also do not know.
I'm not attacking you, just pointing out that personal questions like these force us to assume a lot of things about situations and people that are completely unknown to us.
cause he knows they're important to u and he still wants that control.....get away from that creep!
because he believes they are a bargaining chip... He needs to gain more power and control. This means you must lose more.
He is aware of the stigma of a woman who gives up her children and he is aware of the negative feelings which might be created in you through the loss of custody of your children so he is willing to invoke a fear of loss in you.
Don't react irrationally. You will regret it later.
Unless you can be proven somehow to be an unfit mother, I doubt that he can handle the entire responsibility of sole custody including soccer practice, hidden marijuana joints, 1st periods, bake sales, etc.
Simply tell him that you love the children and are willing to do what's best for them physically, and psychologically. Next, it's his turn...
Meanwhile, assess your own feelings. Do you really want to retain full custody of the kids? Can you afford to? Would they want that?
Because your husband is an A*S. Keep a written record of every time he verbally (or physically) abuses you OR the children. Take his sorry butt to court and keep those kids. This man needs to be kicked to the curb and kept away from those kids.
Because he is a controlling jerk.Does he work?take the kids and leave while he's at work.Go to the courthouse and get a temporary restraining order that gives you temporary custody and makes him have to stay away from you.Do not let him know where you've gone.And if your kids are in school,alert the office and teachers so they won't let the kids go with him.If he's this controlling,no judge in america will give him those kids.But you keep them with you cause possession is 9 tenths of the law,even with children.Good luck,I hope this helps.Take it from one who knows.
he is controlling ur weak mind
You must not live in California, here women rape the guys when it comes to divorce.
I am going to school to become a police officer and to me it sounds like this guy is not someone you want to be around and the kids should not be around. I suggest that you get an attorny or call one for advice. Try and get the kids to stay with other family members until the issue is resolved and be honest with them. Good Luck
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