You're just unsure of yourself. You're second-guessing whether or not you did the right thing. I always do this.
But the good news is...perhaps he saw it under a completely different light. Maybe he wasn't aggravated at all, and you're just projecting your feelings unto him.
Take care.What does it mean when you to talk to your husband about your feelings but finish feeling you shouldn't have?
Oh girl, I go through this all the time, I've been trying to talk to my husband about our relationship lately because he is changing and he will not listen to me and if I do make it through the conversation he blames it on me and makes me feel bad about myself when I am not the one with the problem - he is. Just stick to what you believe you have to do and do it. If he don't want to listen, make him...do whatever it takes.
Men don't want to hear anything negative about themselves or the relationship. They are insulted if they think you are accusing them of doing something wrong. They think they are perfect and would rather sulk than change.
Men will tell a bartender that for no apparent reason his wife left him. Say, after 30 years of marriage. He says that he thought it was a wonderful marriage. It's probably because she never complained. He will probably say she is going through ';the change';. Actually, she has THS tired'o his sh it.
Sometimes you can aggravate people whilst trying to explain the situation, especially if you appear to be blaming him for how you feel.
Next time try by telling him how you feel then ask him what do you think?
Try to keep blame out of it unless he is 100% responsible for it. Then you must use a different tact. Did you know when you did this you hurt my feelings etc etc.
Try not to be emotional when you discuss it as well.
-Depands how you put togather your words.....we women are dramas sometimes.....men hates it and like straight forward things....no beating around the bushes...be serious and if he missunderstood tell him immediatly what you meant exactly......and when in doubt about what you will say....dont say anything at all........
Re-group...write down what you want to discuss...practice it...then present it. If it is important, you will want to have your thoughts focused and won't leave him confused. Just try it again..you can do it.
Because men don't like the ';feelings'; discussions. They just want a beer and to see somethin naked.
To me it means that you have big communication problems.
Well, how did you tell him and what exactly did you say? Did you insult him? I need more info
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