How do you have a normal sex life when your husband has a fetish?

My husband has a slip fetish. It is to the point that we cannot have sex without a slip being involved in some way. I was okay with this to begin with but it is now getting to a point where it is making me feel bad-- like the fetish is more important than I am.





Does anyone else have a relationship with someone who has a fetish? How do you make it work?How do you have a normal sex life when your husband has a fetish?
You're going to have to tell him to calm down a bit on his fetish. It's just unhealthy to always have to have your fetish. Remind him that sex is about pleasing the other person, and putting their needs first. It shouldn't be a one sided issue.


It's great that you would entertain his desires, that's what it's all about. But he needs to be aware that it shouldn't be an every day thing, especially if you're not as in to it as he is.








My ex wife cheated on me a lot of times. Then I took her back some time later for a while. She became obsessed with like bondage S%26amp;M kind of things and pain and masicism. It was really too much for me, and it along with a combination of other things contributed to our failure. But, I think the most important thing is to think of the other person and not be selfish when it comes to sex. She was like a man, always about her needs. That's just not healthy, and it makes the other person feel bad.





You should talk to him. Maybe get some books or reading material, for the both of you to learn different ways to ';come together';, to speak on the sexuality side of your relationship.


Good luck.How do you have a normal sex life when your husband has a fetish?
I had a friend in a similar situation, and there's only one thing that works: you have to communicate this with him. (In her case, it was a wig...).





The fetish isn't more important than you are, of course, but that isn't the issue. The issue is that parts of your sex life are making you uncomfortable and that is never right.





I realize it's not an easy convo, but maybe start out by telling him what you do like and then thinking of options that don't involve a slip. But at some point, I think you need to state exactly what you typed here.
I would like my wife to wear thigh highs and stilettos all the time but I know that's not realistic. Having her completely naked is just fine. You need to tell your husband that you have a fetish as well and it doesn't involve a slip. Tell him what you want to wear or what you don't want to wear.
You do what I do...you participate in it 80% of the time. But now and then you try to throw in something else...a fantasy of your own.





An article of clothing is easy...you don't have to pay attention to it. If it is a full blown fantasy that involves role play then it may get boring replaying the same scenerio over and over.
fetish guys are ALL about the fetish. they never see NOT doing the fetish sometimes is also a nice change of pace.








tell him tonight the slip's involvement will be keeping the inside of the slip drawer warm.








and tough sh*t if he doesn't like it normal every now and then.
I think that's an easy one, if all he wants is for you to wear a slip. My husband is worse, I wouldn't call his a fetish, more like a fanatic way of thinking. How I deal with it, I avoid having sex with him. If I could fix my sex life by just wearing a slip, I would.
That is someone you married and if he like slips then give him slips, wrap one around your head too and jump on the bed like a crazed slip woman lol....
Suggest that HE wear the slip. Every time.
You married him that way. Get over it.
make ';his'; night twice a month... I believe that's enough...
You need to see that you husband gets long term treatment with a mental health professional. Seek a psychiatrist, a behavior therapist, just find a clinician who is experienced in successfully treating this area. This is the only way for you to make this work.