Would you consider a sexy holiday threesome to surprise your husband or boyfriend?

My husband and i have a very healthy OPEN relationship and while everyone initially answers no to the above we have never had an invitation turned down (both men and women). This is your answer i dont need to be judged because i am comfortable with me!Would you consider a sexy holiday threesome to surprise your husband or boyfriend?
Yes.





But then again my husband and I have had 3somes in the past. Haven't had them in years, but we do play. :-)Would you consider a sexy holiday threesome to surprise your husband or boyfriend?
Normally I believe surprise threesomes do not work but since you are in an open relationship it may work. There are three issues I would consider before arranging it. First talk to your husband about the idea and make sure he is comfortable with you surprising him with a threesome. The discussion does not have to get in when it will happen but it should be a discussion regarding the idea.





Next area for consideration would be the third person. I am aware that with couples in open relationships each couple varies in the level of communication regarding their 'lovers' and since you state you are in a health open relationship it does not tell me how much communication about them occurs. In this part the assumption I am working on is the fact you tell him the essential bits but not everything. Since you are in an open relationship I would assume discretion is needed? Also I would assume that you may share details about your encounters with your husband but not every detail? For you I would assume by having a threesome with your husband it would mean exposing a part of relationships that he may not be fully aware? If that is the case I would be careful about who I selected, the need for discretion, and what impact it may have.





Third issue is considering the goal of the threesome. By this I mean when you say threesome are you considering incorporating a third into your relationship or are you using the ordinary definition of threesome.





In answer to your question I would say the answer lies solely with you and what you are willing to risk to share to with your husband. Also take a look at how you are defining threesome and what it will take to have it. Does it mean your husband and you will have to have new boundaries for this encounter? How are you going to define to the third person their role and your expectations of them? In essence what I am trying to get at here is defining what you are wanting and determining the risk of doing it.
my husband and I also have a healthy sexual relationship





not an open relationship (neither of us would be comfortable with the other having sex without us) however threesomes are not an issue for us





especially with me being bi-sexual, allowing threesomes into our marriage as helped me cope





I wouldn't consider doing this as a present for the holidays (nor for any other occassion) because I don't consider sex of any type a ';present';


-its just something we enjoy together whenever, not for special occasions, more like for Friday nights
i don't know about he surprise element of it. it seems to me that you would need to be pretty seasoned swingers with a full understanding of each others likes and with a very full trust. with that said i would welcome the right person for some fun.
I would consider such a thing, yes. The thing is, though, who....? If you were surprsing your husband, the question is, what would turn him on more, another man or another woman? Ohhhhh, don't forget the gift wrap and bow!
Hiya Sarah!!!





I absolutely would!!! This is a phenomenal idea and if you are both already engaging in the lifestyle I say more power to you!!!





Hope This Helps!!!





Dawn



Yes both of us would. Healthy, open relationships seem to last longer than the boring monogamous ones.
No. Only because I believe that in a marriage sexual relations should stay solely within the marriage but then its a free world, do wat floats ur boat.
My wife certainly would. And I know she'd appreciate it if I set one up with one of her favorite boy toys.
Oh ya, is that a invitation?
No, considering takes thought, and I would not have to think about it!
been there done that *yawn*





anything gets BORING after a while
go for it and dont worry what others think.
It seems all hot and sexy now, but just wait until the jealousy and anger surface. Because it will.