Why does my husband want to cross dress?

I have been married for 5 years and about a year ago my husband confessed that he got turned on by wearing makeup and cross dressing. We have kids together and he says that he isn't gay. I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around this and just want to understand it better.Why does my husband want to cross dress?
About 50% of men will never cross-dress. For them, it is a fate worst that death. They see it only as a horrible form of torture, outlawed by the Geneva Convention. They believe harms the male dignity.





The other men will cross-dress but for most of these guys its only for laughs. They think its funny and they want to get a reaction out of others. They may do it as a dare, or out of curiosity, but it just doesn't mean much to them. Then there are about 10% of men who say that they really enjoy it. So what's with those guys? Are they crazy?





The vast majority of cross-dressers are normal, healthy, heterosexual men with one little kink hard-wired into their brains. When these men feminize themselves their brains release neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin and others) which produce sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It affects the reward centers of his brain, so it mimics the addiction response. He can't stop his brain from releasing neurotransmitters. And his brain craves these neurotransmitters - he wants more, and more, and ...





Now most men with this condition consider it a problem. They want to live a normal heterosexual life, so they keep their cross-dressing private, very private. They place limits on their cross-dressing and this is fine. By placing limits on their cross-dressing they are taking control over their lives. Remember this mimics an addiction, so he has to control it, or it will take control over him.





In a marriage, the wife us usually struggles to understand her husband's ';need'; to feminize himself. Her role in the relationship is to help her husband set the limits to his cross-dressing. She needs to understand her own tolerances to her husband's fetish. She may help him with selecting clothing what may see acceptable to her. She sets the rules: Some examples may be:


1. Never use my clothes/make-up without permission. I'll help you get your own.


2. Don't bring it to our intimate times. I don't find it a turn-on, and I'm not a lesbian.


3. Just use a few articles to get your neurotransmitters flowing. Don't pretend to be a woman, and don't make-up a female alter-ego.





Whatever your limits make sure you work on them together. Show a little support but also let him know that you need a man, a masculine man, to love and hold you. You need a man your children can respect and honor.





May I suggest that you get him some nylon men's pajamas, They are soft and feel like lingerie. He can wear two pairs of nylon pants together and they slide and feel sensual. Actually, I like the soft feel of nylon against the lean hard-body of a man. You may even let him wear a pretty slip under his nylon pajamas and it will not show or interfere with anything.





You may also consider getting him some silky men's boxers. Using make-up and feminine wear are for special occasions. Again details will have to be worked out between your needs and tolerances, and his needs and desires. Good luck, and remember, he is still the same man you feel in love with years ago.Why does my husband want to cross dress?
Believe it or not, this is a huge trend with straight men today. Even if it feels weird for you, it's a real feeling for him to want to do that - so make it fun for yourself too. Have a ';slumber party'; where you dress him up and treat him like your Barbie doll, paint his toe nails, do facials and apply make-up. It doesn't have to be all sexual, although it might really turn him on..... but just stay open minded to having some fun and see what it's like to have a partner that can also share those things with you too - and imagine the shopping perks! Think 80s big hair glam guys, they were pretty much all made up and wearing girlie things too and they were sex symbols - it's really not that different...
Women have nicer clothes? ha ha. No. I really don't know...I guess I'd wonder if he was gay...