My husband left me and three kids, got drunk for a month, then came home. Times can be hard, but just encourage her by saying that he will know what he has lost when he's gone. It is so true. He will want to come back. Encourage her to speak to him with kind words and not yell at him. If she holds the moral high ground then he will be the ';loser'; not her.What do I say to a bestfriend who just left their husband?
You say ';Frankly I think she should just leave him but she is completely in love with him,'; So she has not left him....and she's his wife, not yours.
Now to fully unfderstand the situation, you need to include why the father drinks--does he have debts, and therefore worries--or any other understandable reasons for him to not do his duty in those two weeks?
Be a supporting friend, but not more.
all you can do is be there for her. i have found that if you decide to give them advise they end up getting back with them and you look like the ***hole. because sure as i type this they always tell them all the advise you gave them. then they don't like you or want you around them. best thing to do is keep the adivse to yourself and just be a listening ear to her. just knowing that they can count on you is enough for them.sometimes they just want someone to listen.
You sound like a good friend. She is probably so sad and depressed and confused about what to do. Just let her know that you are there for her no matter what. That is the best kind of friend to have.
I think you're right... just be a sounding board, a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold.
She's in a tough spot- loving him, probably not wanting to admit to herself that he's a lazy drunk.
Just listen. Sometimes saying nothing is the best thing we can do. After all, she has to get completely feed up and make up her own mind about her marriage.
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