Why am I better at soothing my baby than my husband?

Is it because this is what women were biologically made to do?Why am I better at soothing my baby than my husband?
your baby spent 9 months in you, the last few months all he or she heard was your voice. Your voice is soothing to the child. Then you probably breast-fed the child, developing an even deeper connection.





Of course there's going to be a different relationship, your husband is playing catch up now.





Babies love their mom unconditionally, they're addicted to your voice, your smell, and your warmth because it's all they've known.





so to answer your revised question: Really it neither. It's easier for you to sooth the baby for the reasons above. You could make a stretch and say that your husband is stronger than you and therefore has a stronger touch than you do -- or that your husband is used to more rough play, sports, etc so he doesn't know how to be gentle and soothing enough for a little baby. But that's assuming these things are true, which is a pretty big generalization.





congrats on the addition :-)Why am I better at soothing my baby than my husband?
';How to bond'; is both innate and learned BUT I really don't think that the concept of ';maternal Instinct'; is universal because otherwise all women would want to make babies and clearly not all do (including me). I have no interest in babies, never did and never will.





'Parenting and Attachment


Advice For Bonding With Your Baby'





'The attachment bond is a special parent-baby relationship that influences future mental, physical, and emotional development. When this bond is secure, it fosters self-awareness, flexibility, and trust. But when this bond isn’t secure – as can happen when a parent feels overwhelmed, suffers from depression, or lacks parenting skills – it can lead to future problems for the baby.





The good news is that anyone can learn how to successfully bond with baby – even if you had a troubled attachment relationship yourself. It’s never too late to learn the skills. You can also improve the attachment relationship with older kids.





What is secure attachment and why does it matter?


At birth, an infant’s brain is wired for connection to his or her primary caregiver, usually the mother. This connection between the primary caregiver and the baby is known as the attachment bond. The success of the attachment bond depends on the parent’s ability to understand and respond to the infant’s physical and emotional needs. When the parent and the baby are in sync with each other, then the baby develops a secure attachment. The baby feels safe, knowing that mom or dad will be there when needed.





Why secure attachment is so important for your baby’s future


The success or failure of the parent-baby attachment bond has a life-long effect on the way your child feels about him or herself and about others. Individuals who experience confusing, frightening, or broken emotional communications during their infancy often grow into adults who have difficulty understanding their own emotions and the feelings of others. This limits their ability to build or maintain successful relationships.





But when people develop a secure attachment bond, they are better able to:





Develop fulfilling intimate relationships


Maintain emotional balance


Feel confident and good about themselves


Enjoy being with others


Rebound from disappointment and loss





As important as a secure attachment is, it is not beyond the reach of most parents – including working parents. Nature has programmed mothers to love connecting to their babies as much as babies love connecting to their mothers. The process of bonding successfully with your baby releases endorphins, powerful chemicals in your body that motivate, energize, and make you feel happy. Creating a secure attachment with your infant may take a little effort, but the rewards are huge, for both your baby and you.';
It's based on the individual. I have no discernible maternal instinct, despite being female: I hold babies with my arms straight out, don't coo over boiled lobster-looking newborns, and am generally uncomfortable around kids until the age of seven, when they appreciate being treated vaguely like adults. My father, on the other hand, cried at the end of ';Juno'; and is very sentimental about small children.





You can't make such distinct generalizations against 6.76 billion people. Women are certainly ENCOURAGED more, but both genders make adequate parents.
well since you didn't tell us the whole story could it be that you force your husband to work while you stay home with the baby when you can be the one working and him staying home.....could it that maybe you make your husband feel inferior with some of your remarks like the ones you made here........not all women make better parents
My son (who is 4 months old) rejects me for his mother on a regular basis. There is no possible way he's learned anything yet, and I have approached him in the most genderless way possible, to no avail. Women are biologically made to nurture children.
Breasts.





Don't get offended by the truth. When the baby is crying, it knows that mom has THE nipples. It is quite soothing for them. As suckling is one of the five responses a baby is born with. If you touch lightly on the corner of even one day old baby's mouth, it will pucker its mouth to that direction and seek your finger and suckle it.
this is what you say, but ask from the baby. he/she see you as a food supplier nothing more. any body even Hitler can be the one.





All of those “special” characters that they “give” to “mothers” are false.


“mothers” are the number one in generating criminals.


The child learns how to hate from them.


There is no special relation between child and mother, it is only the law of survival.


They “love” only THEIR child, don’t care about any others.





“they have very good feeling with child…., they understand them better…,”





yes, they kill them five together.





Now they call it abortion, such a great feeling with child which they have!
what a tap on your own backs load of shite two





we fathers have our own way i always got handed my child when she was in need of soothing especially when teething time came and colic %26amp; measles doctors injections


the mother could not cope with such stress





i also revived our child when we were in a colder climate and the child had gone blue %26amp; stopped breathing in the middle of the night.


the mother admittedly was the one to wake and find the covers off the cot but all she could then do was panic %26amp; she is the RN
No it doesn't. It's because you are mom.





It doesn't have anything to do with what you are doing. Baby just knows your mommy and is more calm with you.





Babies connect with their mothers at first more, it's not that women just know what to do.





-Connor
women (generally speaking) are nurturers.


We have the maternal instinct that men don't.


We're soft and sweet...men are hard and rough.


All the men in my family...love babies, but they always end up passing the baby back to one of of females...saying ';here';...you're better at this than me.


Instinct.
Yeah, women have softer features than men, and out voices are higher and softer and more calming to listen to. Women are just better at soothing period.
Well that baby has known you for 9 months longer than the daddy.
The answer to most nature vs. nurture questions is a combination of both.
yes... women r natural nurturers.... were lots better with kids an animals than men...
for 1 thing your skin is softer to the touch.