How long is normal grieving time for loss of my husband?

My husband died from leukemia 5 mo. ago and I still have days when I cry and really miss him. I've started dating some and it seems every man says get on with your life and treats me like I am refusing to get over my grief. Am I abnormal or what? i have been going to grief counseling. Please help!How long is normal grieving time for loss of my husband?
I know you are lonely, but your husband only died 5 months ago. It's too early for you to start dating. You need time to grieve and go through the stages of losing a loved one.





This process usually takes between 2 and 3 years. I'm surprised your grief counselor didn't tell you this.How long is normal grieving time for loss of my husband?
You are perfectly normal. The guys are telling you that it is time to get on with your life means that they want to get in your pants. That's not what you need...yet. Do your close friends and grief counselor tell you that you are refusing to get over your grief or is it just men who are trying to date you? Your friends are probably understanding of your grief process...while your potential suitors are looking at things through their pen!s.





When my dad died, it took me over a year to get through my grief. There were times when I was really good, but then there were other days that were really difficult. The 3, 6, and 1 year mark were really difficult.





Everyone is different. I couldn't imagine even trying to date so soon after my husband's death.
There is no ';normal'; grieving time.
You have every right to grieve but if you want to move on, you have to do just that. Let's think about why are you dating now is it for loneliness, or you ready to find a mate. I suggest if your just doing this just to not be lonely then don't date. Because you are holding the guy back from being serious with someone else because your toying with what it is you want to do. Second if your looking to find a mate you must move on to have a valuable relationship. I am sorry for your loss but if you could talk with him for the last time he would say move on. You know your husband is in a better place of no suffering. But you are in the land of the living and you need to live. You can still be sad for his loss, remembering who and what he was to you. I would suggest going to the grave, and tell him this may seem odd but I done it. Go to the grave and have a talk with him, and air your grievances their. You don't have to speak to him out loud just in mind. Leave a momentum their to symbolize the love you shared, and just when you know this feeling of peace will come over you. And you will know that he is at peace, and you will be able to move on. I wish you the best of luck, and to know your blessed!
I am sorry for your great loss. You must have gone through so much before he died. 5 months is not that long, I am surprised you are even ready to date. We all grieve differently. Before your husband died, I am sure you were grieving for what was to come. Give yourself a lot more time to get out there and feel free to cry when you feel like it. You will know when you are ready to move on
5months is very little, i wouldnt think youre abnormal it would probably take me years to recover from this. If youre still going to counseling than give yourself alittle more time to recover, if youre not ready to date than dont force yourself to. go out to dinners with friends and family occupy yourself and give yourself time. Sorry about your lost.
5 months is not a long time at all to get over a person. I think it is too soon for you to be dating just yet, you need time to grieve. They say that it takes half as long to get over a person as the time you have known them. So if you were together 10 years the grieving process might take 5 years. However that is mainly for break ups maybe it is different with death. I am very sorry for your loss.
if your still going through grief counsiling it doesnt sound like its been long enough to start a new relationship. you should probably use this time to make yourself strong and learn to deal with you new living situation before you start dating someone else
your allowed to miss him. Its normal. Love will do that
Hi Sheila, everyone grieves at their own pace. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son 4 years ago and it still bothers me. I don't think it is something I will ever get over. I don't think 5 months is long at all. I couldn't even speak for 2 months after our loss. I couldn't watch tv or listen to the radio. I just sat and cried and cried. Now our loss was unexpected also. Perhaps it is a little different when you are expecting and can prepare for the loss. But take your time and do not push yourself into something you don't want to do yet. Also, Hospice will give you a year of free counseling.